- Ack, I don't know what to do! Bring by candles. Or light some. We've got many leftovers and so are ok on the food front. Many people say, "let me know if there is anything i can do." if you're serious, repeat it a few times, maybe make some suggestions as to what sort of thing you have in mind. ("i can bring food." "my uncle is a cascet wholesaler and he's got the new eco-casket...")
- I don't know what I should say. Inquiries are good. (as in: "how are you doing? how's your mom? how's your family?") "I'm sorry." is a great standby. Say nice things. I dunno.
- I'm not in the southbay. Should I send email? I like email as long as it's not spam. Don't send spam. Christi likes email too.